I grew up thinking that there was only objective reality, a world “out there” that existed apart from me, and that the quality of my life, particularly how smart I was would depend on how well I was able to learn and describe what already is.
When I became aware of those that questioned the very notion of objective reality I dismissed them as weird and not worthy of a rational, logical person as yours truly.
It wasn’t until my early thirties that I was exposed to the notion of reality as created through language vs. reality as merely described through language.
The distinction of language – not just communication – as what makes human beings very special on this planet, has made a world of difference to how I am now able to deal with the world and with other human beings. It has opened up a new way of “seeing” the world (“objective” reality), people and the stories they live in.
Stories are the mechanism or manifestation of our ability to language and to the extent that we are blind to the stories we live in (like the fish being oblivious to water because of its very obviousness and all pervasiveness), we suffer.
We see in/through language, and having this as your background of understanding – your “common sense” – will greatly expand your ability to cope with change, cause positive change, maintain and grow relationships.
For an example how we see in language, consider the days when you were a child and an adult told you a story. Through words alone an entire world of scenes, characters, situations and emotions became “real” for you. Through words you learned of things and people that may or may not now (or ever) exist.
Words are the building blocks of creation. Perhaps this in why it says in John 1:1 “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.”