The Living Room of Your Mind

The Living Room of Your Mind

In my last post, I wrote about naming the voice in your head. You know the voice. The one that’s always got a running commentary on whatever is happening, happened or will happen.

Well, turns out there may be several different voices that we listen to (Big Mind, Big Heart) and my main point is that you don’t have to listen to any voice that insists on telling you stories that don’t support you being your best possible self.

If you’re not one of the millions of people that listen to the voices in their heads like it’s the most exciting news channel, then bully for you. (Never understood that expression.)

But you know people that do, and you probably have noticed that they have no idea that they have a choice in the matter.

Whenever people ask me about this I use the analogy of your mind as a living room. Every morning you get up, and when you go into your living room (of your mind) there are these creeps sitting there. No one invited them. They just are always there. Like deadbeat cousins telling you stuff like, “You look fat,” “You’re getting old,” “You look terrible,” “Work sucks, you’ll never get out of this dead end job.”

No one invited them. They’re just always there. Like deadbeat cousins telling you stuff like, “You look fat,” “You’re getting old,” “You look terrible,” “Work sucks, you’ll never get out of this dead end job.”

Now in real life, if you had guests in your living room that said things like that to you, you would throw them out.

“Get to f.. out,” you might say, “… and never come back. “You’re not welcome here.”

Completely appropriate response.

But because these are just voices in your head, (and you think they’re real, or you) your response to this stream of insults is more like,

“Coffee?”

“You can’t even make good coffee, you fat pig,” they respond.

You return with the coffee, and while sipping it they continue, “You’re a fraud, and when they find out at work you’ll be fired.”

Your response,

“Sugar?”

“Milk?”

Silly eh? It’s not far off though. The point is that you can choose whether you give those negative voices (thoughts) your attention or not. You can kick them out of the living room of your mind just like real people in your actual living room. In fact, you have to.

The good thoughts can’t show up as long as those creeps are hanging around.

0 Responses to The Living Room of Your Mind

  1. oh, you’re good! love the metaphor. I gave up coffee last year; however, doesn’t seem to stop me from offering the Voices SOMEthing. Do we secretly LIKE having them in our living room, perhaps?
    I highly recommend Genpo Roshi and his Big Mind, Big Heart meditation. Google for his website and if you have an opportunity to see him live, get thee to his event! You will experience great shifts as you learn to embrace each of the Voices in your Head on your path to becoming a fully integrated, functioning human being… the Voices really just want to be understood, after all. Just like Us. Peace

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